Fancy making 2008 the year you had the best sex of your life? Here’s some surefire ways to make this one New Year’s Eve resolution, one you actually stick to:

*Stop seeing sex as a series of steps toward an end goal (intercourse/orgasm), stay focused on the here and now, not where you’re going. Happiness is a means of travelling and all that. Simple advice but it’ll make an extraordinary difference to your satisfaction levels. Sex doesn’t have a beginning, middle and an end, so stop thinking that way.

*Vary the way you have your orgasms by forcing yourself to break out of your comfort zone. Most of us tend to orgasm in the one way that’s easiest and ignore the alternatives. Say you only orgasm through oral sex? Well...ban it for a month! Yes, you’ll hate it. But you won’t later if you master other techniques. Your body will resist initially, then it’ll respond with: ‘Well I’m obviously not getting any tongue action here, I might as well try to get used to his fingers instead’. By varying your means to orgasm, you’ll up the chances of becoming multi-orgasmic.

*Have sense-ational sex: dull one sense each time you have sex to heighten the others. Here’s your deprivation device timetable: Sight session: blindfolds. Hearing session: ear-plugs. Touch session: each of you have your hands tied behind your back (it’s fiddly tying theirs when yours are tied as well, but it can be done!). Taste session: no mouth contact at all. Smell session: ummmm – OK, I admit defeat (I draw the line at holding each other's nose). Instead, do the opposite for this one and focus on smell (as in burn some aromatherapy oils or massage each other scented lotions). It’s actually a very good idea to link sex and smell. According to research, memories of sex are the quickest to fade because the feelings come from a primitive part of the brain which has little capacity to store memory. Smell, on the other hand, has a powerful effect on memory. Wear a particular perfume each time you have sex or burn an aromatherapy oil and your sex memories will be much easier to recall. The next time you smell the scent, your brain instantly conjures up how fab it felt—encouraging you to go for a repeat, even if you are both dog-tired.

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